I'm known as "The Leatherfaerie Shaman," having been in both the leather/SM and the Radical Faery communities for many years. I lived in San Francisco in the late 80s and was very active in its leather community. I practice and promote a spiritual/shamanic approach to SM. I was a member of the National Leather Association from 1987 - 1994, and was on its Executive Council. I'm also a founding member and past vice-president of the Tarheel Leather Club (now an Alumnus). I've had many other gay activist and leather/SM involvements over the past decade and will continue to do so. Politically, I'm Libertarian - fiscally conservative and against big, paternalistic government, but regarding civil rights and individual freedoms I'm a screaming radical.
I'm 50, 5' 8", a bit overweight (180) from a too sedentary lifestyle, brown eyes, waist-long hair going grey, bearded (salt & pepper), moustachioed, one tatoo (my personal symbol) and planning more, many piercings - I am a piercer. I'm very intelligent and well educated. I love learning on my own. I'm also self-employed. I have many interests: classical music, foreign and art films, satire and black humor, gourmet cooking, computers and electronics (a techie), the sciences and humanities, politics, philosophy, growing orchids and gardening in general. I have training in massage, especially accupressure techniques, also Hatha and Kundalini Yoga. I'm a voracious reader and writer; I've been published in many alternative publications, mostly gay, for over 20 years. I'm a Marlboro smoker who knows I should quit, but I still like it. Only a moderate drinker and I don't like drunks or hard druggies. I'm not a barfly or party animal. I'm usually a homebody (homobody?), but I do like to travel and be sociable with friends. I'm extremely loyal to friends and want to make long-lasting, deep friendships. I support loyalty and commitment as a high ideal. I don't care for the bar scene or large, noisy crowds. Generally a quiet, thoughtful person, very independent and sometimes irascible. I appreciate a brutal frankness and honesty to sugar-coated politeness. I don't like primetime TV and most pop music, but I can tolerate others' likes. However, I'm not tolerant of fools and bigots or of stupidity. There is much of pop culture that I avoid. I despise team sports and their commercialization. I think they are too much of a bad influence on our society.
I am HIV negative and otherwise in good health. I've had two soul-brother lovers/partners and lost them both to AIDS several years ago (not to mention the countless friends), which has left a wound in my life. It would be difficult for me to go through losing another lover, but love sometimes doesn't recognize that. I do not believe in monogamy, but in fidelity to a relationship, so I want a sexually open relationship. I don't care if my men have a higher education, but they must be intelligent and interested in pursuing some subjects if they are to keep up with me. After sex, intelligent conversation is another great pleasure.
I like all kinds of sex from gentle, cuddly to tantric to heavy SM. I love kissing. In SM, I'm usually a top, but I can switch with the right man if the chemistry is mutual and he has experience. I want a man who loves to submit and who wants me to submit to him.
SM is sex - foreplay, main course and afterplay. I don't like SM without sex. If it doesn't make my cock hard, forget it. Whether top or bottom, heavy bondage makes me hard; most other SM techniques in the right context do the same. I'm open to most SM experiences, but I don't do scat. I support Safe, Sane, Consensual up to a point, but also like to play on the edge. I want SM to be an act of intense lovemaking, spiritual catharsis and emotional release, as well as hot fun. I like to think of the physical bonds representing a tacit and profound expression of emotional and spiritual bonds.
Lately, I've been feeling a need to revision what kind of relationship I want. It appears that other Leathermen are doing the same. I'm refering to a multiple relationship consisting of an equal lover, a slave or two and perhaps a boy. This is an attempt to create a family. The situation offers opportunities for more individual diversity, fulfillment, personal growth and mutual support. What one individual brings to the relationship can be complimented by more than one other person. This household has potential for more intimacy while offering more free time and a better division of labor to each individual.
Eventually I want to return to rural living, perhaps in the Pacific Northwest, on land where I can walk out my front door naked and walk into the wilderness. Who would like to share that with me?
YOU:
EQUAL PARTNER/LOVER:
I'm seeking a permanent relationship with an equal lover/partner, soul-brother who also wants a slave, preferably with another leather shaman. I need true partnership - a person with whom I can share my and his life to the fullest extent that two human beings can. A soul-brother is a person that you already know and love, even if you have not yet met them in this life. When you meet and look them in the eyes, in a fraction of a second you know that you know them intimately, volumes of knowledge will pass between you, and you will continue a relationship that was only interupted. If you've ever had this special kind of relationship, you will know that no casual or common relationship can replace it. It is the most intimate and bonded relationship possible. Perhaps I can't expect another soul-brother relationship in this life, but I think that soul-brothership can be built if there is love and commitment.
My fantasy lover-man would be a long-haired, bearded, Harley biker
with tatoos, piercings, very experienced in leather/SM (switch), intelligent,
educated, with a twisted and subtle sense of humor, many interests and
talents, perhaps a computer programmer (unix X-windows?), a cigarette smoker
who gets off on the image, slim or chubby, not grossly overweight (a beer/bear-belly
is fine), a good masseur, committed to a cause, a spiritual path and a
relationship, not a party animal, but knows how to have a good time; perhaps
even a bit of an independent loner, like me. Also a lover of good food and cooking. He would be at least 30, but older than me is OK. HIV negative. Willing to relocate to the Greensboro,
NC area or give me a good reason to move.
SLAVE:
In training a potential slave, who unfortunately didn't work out, I realized that I need more than a sex slave or houseboy. I want a manservant who can take care of certain aspects of my life to free me to do my real work. So, I need a man who is capable of many things in my service. My slave would need to have a decent education and know how to use it. I expect self-discipline and initiative, as well as submission. I don't want a groveling wimp. You will be required to find and maintain gainful employment outside the house. Financial matters will be negotiated, although I expect my slave to have a savings account, contribute to the household, pay his own debts and have medical insurance. I don't expect my slave to give all of his earnings to me. Cooking and computer skills will be viewed very favorably.
I want to train my slave in the shamanic art, so an interest in that is preferable. If slavery to you is a spiritual pursuit, so much the better.
Personal criteria: You must be at least 30, older is preferable. Beard and moustache is required. Other body hair is a plus. You may be stocky or slim. Height doesn't matter. Nor does cock size. However, I have a preference for shorter, slim guys that I can easily manhandle or cuddle. Willingness to serve me and learn is a must. Openness to serving two masters is also a requirement.
In the real world, if you meet at least half of these criteria, let's talk. Serious replies only, please.
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