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the life and work of ray bourbon
Ray's Story - Introduction
If you asked many older Gay men, “Who was Ray Bourbon?” you might see a smile of recognition and be treated to a reminiscence about seeing this unique performer in one of many Gay bars or nightclubs in the years before Stonewall. Born at the end of the nineteenth century when psychologists were first identifying homosexuality as a condition and men and women began to see themselves as Gays and Lesbians, Ray Bourbon had a show business career as a comedian and female impersonator that spanned over fifty years, well into an era when Gay liberation would take shape. He was perhaps the most well-known and well-traveled performer in Gay venues during the last century, but he remains largely forgotten today, his comedy both a glimpse into and a relic of another time.
Fortunately, a new generation has been steadily rediscovering Ray and his remarkable talents as albums of his material show up in used record bins. For a stage performer at his peak sixty years ago, Ray’s recordings still have an intense interest and power over the listener. His stage persona was complex and layered in many subtle ways; Ray is at once a gossipy drag queen, a bitchy diva, a butcher of sacred cows, and a keen observer of human nature. Ray would perform and record some of the same routines in the 1930’s, the ‘40’s and later in the ‘60’s; his quick patter and skills at improvisation keep the material fresh and the listener on edge.
While the recordings allow us to know Ray Bourbon the performer, Ray Bourbon the man remains elusive. Documentation on his life, culled from press releases or third-hand short biographies in show business publications, is often conflicting and lacking in detail, a situation that Ray himself encouraged during his lifetime. His memoirs, written by Ray shortly before his death in 1972, represent only a small piece of the jigsaw puzzle of his life. Much of what we can document about Ray has been unearthed by a dedicated group of researchers mentioned who all, upon hearing Ray’s routines that poked fun at everything from Hollywood to drag queens and divas to straight married life and religion, asked the question, “Who was Ray Bourbon?” The answers and theories that have emerged are both revelatory and raise even more questions.
Ray, working in everything from vaudeville, the English music hall and silent films to Broadway, nightclubs, and burlesque, constantly reinvented himself as a performer to fit the changing demands of his profession and this process of editing and rewriting found it’s way into Ray’s everyday life. His embellishment and reworking of his own past, combined with his nomadic life, has made it difficult for researchers to pin down the “real” Ray Bourbon. While some aspects of his career – his appearances in silent films or his stage work with Mae West or Josephine Baker – can be documented to one extent or another, the line between facts and a good story are a fine one when dealing with Ray Bourbon.
I began my own research on Ray Bourbon after picking up a couple of his albums in the mid-1990’s. At the time, I thought Ray might make an interesting topic for a documentary film; his work was both a glimpse into another era and a refreshing take on what it means to be Gay or just different in American society. I was unable to find enough visual material to pull off the documentary, but put up this web site to give my research a public outlet. Rumors of the existence of Ray’s memoirs had circulated for years, but no one I talked with had a clear idea of what could have happened to them – various sources indicated that Ray’s possessions had been disposed of or auctioned off after his death and the manuscript, if it existed at all, remained elusive.
In June 2001, I received an email a Los Angeles resident who saw my web site. He claimed to own the manuscript for Ray’s long-lost memoirs. As Ray wrote the manuscript, a friend encouraged him with the work and agreed to help Ray find a publisher. The current manuscript owner, who had gained an interest in Ray’s story, purchased the memiors from Ray's friend in 1978 with the intent of turning it into a motion picture. He arranged for an interview with Ray’s lawyer during the Blount trial, William Bell, and conducted his own research on Ray’s life. Despite interest from the William Morris agency and a draft script written by a future best-selling author, the project fell through and the manuscript was relegated to storage.
The manuscript owner has kindly allowed me to edit the memiors for publication, adding the primary resources and interviews in my own collection to Ray's story in his own words. Ray was unable to complete work on the memoirs before his death and it is unfortunate that we do not Ray’s version of several notable periods in his life – his early days with Robert Wright and Chet Forrest, his supposed sex change operation or how he came to be a follower of Christian Science, for example. None of the supporting letters and other documentation found with the manuscript indicate any areas that Ray was unwilling to discuss in his memoirs; we do not know if he may have decided not to write about some matters to avoid embarrassing some of his Hollywood friends and acquaintances who were still alive at the time. The volume of material that Ray was able to produce in about a year was still quite remarkable, considering his physical condition and the circumstances surrounding his incarceration.
Ray’s legacy is far subtler than his better-known contemporaries, such as Harry Hay or Allan Ginsberg. His appearances are still fondly remembered by many who saw him when he toured in big and small towns all over the country, providing many isolated Gay men with a glimpse of the loose-knit urban Gay community of the pre-Stonewall era. Ray’s comedy was, at once, highbrow and lowbrow, overtly Gay and covertly subversive. Despite his influence on Gays, he remained vague about his own sexuality. We have evidence that he had relationships with both men and women, was married twice, and fathered at least one son. In his memoirs, Ray discusses his sexual attractions and relationships to both genders with equal enthusiasm, but never called himself Gay or bisexual. He worked on stage in and out of drag, and, after claiming to have a sex change operation, referred to himself publicly as “Rae” and privately in letters to friends as “Ray”.
A man of contradictions, Ray transcended simple labels of male or female, straight or queer. Future historians may never uncover many of the little mysteries of Ray’s personal life and career. But, through his recordings and his memoirs, we are left with many great stories to enjoy. Some may be true and others may be just a good yarn. Regardless of historical accuracy, Ray’s remarkable talent endures.
As Ray once said in one of his routines, "Now, once upon a time, my dear children, in the days when fairies went about in lovely gowns every day of the year and not just on Halloween ..." .